A great attitude becomes a great day, which becomes a great year, which becomes a great life.’ Mandy Hale
There’s a lot of science around attitude and the ways it can shape the world around us – both in terms of how we view it and the actions we take. And the great news is that by taking control of your attitude, you can start to shape the world around you in a way that you want it to be.
Sound too good to be true, or a little too fluffy?
Think about how you react to a person or a situation. If you start out negatively (maybe you dislike the person or are afraid of the situation) – how do you react? Your actions stem from your attitude – and so do the reactions you get.
It’s a vicious circle that started with nothing more than your attitude to something.
Looking at it from the other point of view – what happens when you go into something positively, with passion and energy? It’s a completely different response.
Having a positive attitude creates a positive reality around you, and you’re much more likely to make your hope and dreams a reality. Take a goal you’ve set – if you spend your time dwelling on the things that will stop you from achieving it, you’ll struggle to find the motivation to take it on and achieve it. On the other hand, if you frame it as being achievable, you’ll find it easier to spot solutions to those very same problems.
So the question is, can we take control of our attitudes?
Well, there’s good news and there’s bad news.
The bad news is that our attitudes are the result of every positive and negative thought we’ve had until today. In the same way that a lifetime of bad habits can negatively affect your health, a lifetime of negative thoughts will affect how you see certain situations.
The good news is, just like your body or your health, you can overcome that lifetime of bad habits with exercises to train yourself to develop the attitude you want to have!
The trick is to pay attention to that inner voice and those gut reactions, and consciously reframe them as a positive thought. Essentially, you’re replacing a “bad” habit with a “good” habit, much like a smoker could replace smoking with exercise.
Here are some great examples to help you get started –
- When you find yourself dwelling on the future, stop and think about how that thing is making you feel right now.
- Instead of worrying about something you regret but which you can’t change, accept that you can’t change the past and look for what you can learn from it for the future.
- Don’t worry about how things you can’t control will work out, accept that what is meant to be will happen.
- If you find your self frustrated or angry at somebody, accept that you can’t control others but you can control how you react to them.
- If you’re worried about finding happiness in the future, reflect on things that you’re happy about right now.